Monica AustinLicensed Marital and Family Therapist My passion is to help couples, families and individuals maneuver through the storms of life and embrace the process. Are you experiencing difficulties in your marriage, other relationships, struggling with depression, anxiety or asking what planet your teenager is from? You are not alone, almost everyone will have to deal with one or more of these types of challenges at some point in their life. Read more Monica Austin
Rebel BuersmeyerLicensed Marital and Family Therapist
Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counseor
I am passionate about partnering with my clients to enable them to heal their past, live their present, and embrace their future. I use an integrated approach to treatment which treats the whole person, not just the symptom. In working with my clients, I assess psychological, biological and social factors that may be contributing to the presenting problems. My experience includes working with children, adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, trauma, substance abuse, life transitions and relational difficulties. Read more Rebel Buersmeyer
Mary FitchLicensed Professional Counselor Do you find yourself doing the same thing, over and over, in an attempt to make changes in your life? Do you often feel frustrated and disappointed because things just don't change despite your best efforts? You can make changes in your life; however, it is essential that you have the support and the tools to make that happen. Oftentimes, people have resistance to change and put up obstacles in their path which they are unable to recognize. It takes a great deal of strength, NOT weakness, to ask for help and to allow someone to help you. Read more Mary Fitch
Joshua NicholsLicensed Marital and Family Therapist
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
I have a passion for helping build and strengthen marital and parent-child relationships as well as helping individuals with personal growth. My expertise cover a wide-array of mental health and relational issues. Read more Joshua Nichols
Ben ThompsonLicensed Marital and Family Therapist I want to help you change. My approach involves working with you to figure out the old patterns and habits keeping you unhappy and unfulfilled, and then helping you change them so you can live the life and have the relationships you want. In each session we will also utilize drawing as a means to helping you see the change you desire. My goals are to help you change, create with you new patterns for happier, healthier living, and help you feel more alive. Read more Ben Thompson
Carrie KygerLicensed Marital & Family Therapist
LMFT Clinical Supervisior
Many people find themselves struggling with love, family members, parenting, depression, anxiety or difficult events at one time in their life. You do not have to struggle or wander alone. Couple's counseling, marriage therapy, family therapy or individual therapy can help. Investing time and attention in your health, marriages, couple relationships, parent child relationships and other close relationships is often the best way to manage stress, depression, anxiety or conflict. Read more Carrie Kyger
Lauren ThompsonLicensed Professional Counselor I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who enjoys working with individuals, families, children and adolescents. Asking for help can be overwhelming and difficult, but it shows great strength and determination. I believe that counseling is a collaborative process between therapist and client; and that each client is different and unique. Read more Lauren Thompson
Heather WarfieldLicensed Marital & Family Therapy Candidate I am passionate about helping people build insight, skills, and confidence in order to promote positive relationships, achieve goals, and meet their full potential in life. In order to do this, I find it essential to create a safe environment to explore presenting issues as well as the histories, events, and relationships that created and continue such hardships. As a therapist, I see my role as an advocate and coach in assisting each person, couple, and family through their unique journey of growth and change. Read more Heather Warfield
Gabe YandellLicensed Marital & Family Therapist Today, you can begin a different path in relationships with others and with yourself. No person exists outside of relationships and every relationship has flaws. In some way, we are shaped every day by our view of ourselves and by those around us. I am here to empower you to be the person you want to be. Depression, anxiety, shame, resentment, and other issues all can be addressed through gaining understanding and self-expression. Read more Gabe Yandell

Having trouble getting pregnant? Many couples and single women are finding out there is more to their story than just having trouble getting pregnant. It is not uncommon for people who wait and plan to have children and then struggle with conceiving to be unexpectedly hit with intense and overwhelming emotions. After trying for a year, stress and concern about being able to have children increases significantly as families and individuals make the decision to pursue fertility treatments. Couples and women struggling with becoming pregnant or having miscarriages share common concerns about each year that passes after trying each type of fertility treatment without success. Birthday celebrations, holidays, and menstruation become a constant reminder that time is moving forward without pregnancy. Yet, as it seems to those struggling with fertility issues, your family, friends, and co-workers cheerfully continue to have more children and grandchildren and are ostensibly unaware of the pain you may feel. Maybe you cannot go a single day without a reminder at work, on television, or anywhere you go that others are achieving easily (even accidentally) what you are desperate for. Maybe your partner or spouse doesn’t seem as concerned as you are about not having children and brushes off your sadness and pain. Maybe your sex life with your partner has lost its luster or you are no longer able to perform as you would like. All of these situations are common for couples and women struggling with trouble becoming or keeping a pregnancy. 
 
If infertility or the threat of infertility is something that has affected you or your couple relationship, then you are likely dealing with a type of loss known as ambiguous loss. Simply stated, with ambiguous loss, you tend to feel the range of difficult emotions associated with loss sometimes even before the child has been conceived or other times before the child has been born, as in a miscarriage. The loss is not only limited to the child, but it is also, in many ways, the loss of a dream that you have planned for and expected for many years. Grieving this type of loss definitely has its own set of challenges due to uncertainty and confusion concerning what is causing difficulty in your fertility and whether you might ever be able to have a child. What follows are some tips that can help you manage the day-to-day struggles of infertility and the challenges associated with ambiguous loss.
 
Give yourself permission. It is better to admit to ourselves that we feel angry, sad, hurt, etc., than to try to hold everything inside. Maybe you feel angry when you see pregnant strangers or have to attend yet another baby shower. Acknowledge that different situations along with your fertility concerns will sometimes generate difficult emotions. Give yourself permission to be honest with yourself. Sometimes we all have negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves, other people, and our respective situations in life; that is a part of being human. Also, don’t forget to give yourself permission to grieve. In order to manage these feelings, we must first know what we are feeling. 
 
Treat Yourself. You have admitted to yourself how you are feeling and, yet, you still feel upset. Now what? Couples and women must find ways to treat themselves with special care to manage these emotions so that they do not get stuck in them. Our bodies are made for stress, but too much stress will run us down and keep us from being the best versions of ourselves. The body handles stress much like a car engine. The engine that is used from time to time will last longer than the engine that is used constantly. Going through infertility treatments and being unable to have children is an unavoidable added stressor that you have to contend with. Thus, it is imperative that you give yourself extra attention to keep from getting run down. Take a day off from work and do something you enjoy. Go to place you find relaxing. Cuddle up with your favorite book or take a hot bath to help melt your stress away. When couples and women dealing with infertility are able to find ways to relax, they are better able to manage unexpected reminders of their struggle with infertility.
 
Talk about your pain and listen to others. Too many times, couples and single women think no one can understand what they are going through. If you are married or in a long-term relationship, tell your partner about the reminders of your struggle to get pregnant. Give your partner space to talk about how they feel, as well. Maybe you are more affected by having trouble getting pregnant, but your partner may also have hurts yet not be sure how to talk with you about them. If you are a single woman, find a friend or family member you trust to talk to about your feelings. Often, partners or confidants have no idea what to say or do; therefore, don’t be afraid to tell them what you need from them. Also, keep in mind that friends and family may attempt only to speak to you about the fertility—set boundaries around these relationships. You are more than your struggle to have a baby. Tell them if and when you want to talk about your fertility difficulties, and if you ever want them to bring it up. Otherwise, friends and family will continue to do what they think is the most supportive even if it is completely wrong for meeting your needs.
 
Ask for help. If you find you are having trouble managing your emotions and relationships or if you just can’t get a break from the stress of your fertility difficulties, I recommend consulting a professional who focuses on working with couples and individuals dealing with relational difficulties that may arise with fertility issues. Sometimes it is helpful to have a safe place to work through the stress and the pain of having difficulty getting pregnant. I welcome you to contact me with any questions, as I am happy to offer any assistance that I am able to give for you and your relationships.
 

Gabe Yandell

  • Licensed Marital & Family Therapist
  • Infertility Issues in Women and Couples
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