Monica AustinLicensed Marital and Family Therapist My passion is to help couples, families and individuals maneuver through the storms of life and embrace the process. Are you experiencing difficulties in your marriage, other relationships, struggling with depression, anxiety or asking what planet your teenager is from? You are not alone, almost everyone will have to deal with one or more of these types of challenges at some point in their life. Read more Monica Austin
Rebel BuersmeyerLicensed Marital and Family Therapist
Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counseor
I am passionate about partnering with my clients to enable them to heal their past, live their present, and embrace their future. I use an integrated approach to treatment which treats the whole person, not just the symptom. In working with my clients, I assess psychological, biological and social factors that may be contributing to the presenting problems. My experience includes working with children, adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, trauma, substance abuse, life transitions and relational difficulties. Read more Rebel Buersmeyer
Mary FitchLicensed Professional Counselor Do you find yourself doing the same thing, over and over, in an attempt to make changes in your life? Do you often feel frustrated and disappointed because things just don't change despite your best efforts? You can make changes in your life; however, it is essential that you have the support and the tools to make that happen. Oftentimes, people have resistance to change and put up obstacles in their path which they are unable to recognize. It takes a great deal of strength, NOT weakness, to ask for help and to allow someone to help you. Read more Mary Fitch
Joshua NicholsLicensed Marital and Family Therapist
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
I have a passion for helping build and strengthen marital and parent-child relationships as well as helping individuals with personal growth. My expertise cover a wide-array of mental health and relational issues. Read more Joshua Nichols
Ben ThompsonLicensed Marital and Family Therapist I want to help you change. My approach involves working with you to figure out the old patterns and habits keeping you unhappy and unfulfilled, and then helping you change them so you can live the life and have the relationships you want. In each session we will also utilize drawing as a means to helping you see the change you desire. My goals are to help you change, create with you new patterns for happier, healthier living, and help you feel more alive. Read more Ben Thompson
Carrie KygerLicensed Marital & Family Therapist
LMFT Clinical Supervisior
Many people find themselves struggling with love, family members, parenting, depression, anxiety or difficult events at one time in their life. You do not have to struggle or wander alone. Couple's counseling, marriage therapy, family therapy or individual therapy can help. Investing time and attention in your health, marriages, couple relationships, parent child relationships and other close relationships is often the best way to manage stress, depression, anxiety or conflict. Read more Carrie Kyger
Lauren ThompsonLicensed Professional Counselor I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who enjoys working with individuals, families, children and adolescents. Asking for help can be overwhelming and difficult, but it shows great strength and determination. I believe that counseling is a collaborative process between therapist and client; and that each client is different and unique. Read more Lauren Thompson
Heather WarfieldLicensed Marital & Family Therapy Candidate I am passionate about helping people build insight, skills, and confidence in order to promote positive relationships, achieve goals, and meet their full potential in life. In order to do this, I find it essential to create a safe environment to explore presenting issues as well as the histories, events, and relationships that created and continue such hardships. As a therapist, I see my role as an advocate and coach in assisting each person, couple, and family through their unique journey of growth and change. Read more Heather Warfield
Gabe YandellLicensed Marital & Family Therapist Today, you can begin a different path in relationships with others and with yourself. No person exists outside of relationships and every relationship has flaws. In some way, we are shaped every day by our view of ourselves and by those around us. I am here to empower you to be the person you want to be. Depression, anxiety, shame, resentment, and other issues all can be addressed through gaining understanding and self-expression. Read more Gabe Yandell

Back to school stress: For parents and students!

 

Is it that time of year already?  For many family school is back in session; and for others it is right around the corner.  Many children and parents are experiencing a combination of emotional and logistical stressors.  Parents often share with me that they are sad to see their baby grow up, that they are exhausted with getting kids out the door (fully dressed and clean!) on time,  as well as looking down the road to evenings of homework and projects.  Kids and teens tell me they are dreading getting up early, having less free time and also anticipate the hard work of tests and papers.  These are all typical worries that come about during a transition.  However, some kids and parents are struggling with more specific and perhaps more complicated and pressing fears like bullying, “mean girls,” self image, a lack of finances for school supplies, or fear their child is not able to keep up with the academic demands.  
 
Create a plan. For all parents and students, creating a plan is a great place to start to manage the stress.  First, create a plan for getting a routine for the weekdays.  Establish a time for homework, dinner, family time, relaxing time, bathing and bedtime; do the same for the morning.  Next, identify where you absolutely must stand firm and where you can be more flexible in order to be more realistic for those days that are extra busy (a pop tart once a week won’t kill you, right?)  Finally, make this plan something the whole family creates so that it is clear to all!  It is important to eliminate as much ambiguity as possible.  Thus, involving your children in this process, as well as, writing it down will help do just that. 
 
Communicate openly. As for the more difficult and specific stressors, talk about the problems before the school begins.  If last year money was tight and your child was not able to buy a yearbook, talk about how to prioritize money over the whole school year.  If a group of kids or a specific child was targeting your child, talk about how to deal with this again this year now that we are one year older and wiser.  Next, get the school involved.  Meet the teachers, school counselors and principals.  Parents go to Back to School nights and send an email to counselors and teachers that first week of school introducing yourself and share concerns. This establishes an open line of communication that will be critical to prevent and deal with any problems.  Finally, keep connections with friends, family and extracurricular activities a routine part of your families weekly schedule.  These connections can prove a great place to relieve stress and get positive interactions.
 
Empathize with your children. Finally, remember that transitions are difficult for EVERYONE so give it some time.  Give extra affection and supportive words to those kids and parents who are adjusting to the “real world.”  It is also important to remember that kids will take on their parent’s perspectives; therefore, parents should work at staying positive and modeling resiliency for your kids.  Everything looks better in the morning; or at least Saturday morning during the school year!
 
Ask for help. If things don’t seem to settle down and the stressors continue to persist.  I suggest consulting with a professional who may be able to offer you some insight that you do not have.  Sometimes it is hard to see the forest for the trees.  You are more than welcomed to contact me or any other counselor here at Family Solutions Counseling as we would be happy to offer our assistance to you and your family.
 

Carrie Kyger

  • Licensed Marital & Family Therapist
  • State of Oklahoma Approved LMFT Supervisor
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